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Privacy NoticeNew Year’s Resolutions – every year we make them and every year we break them. Although we might start the year with the best of intentions a staggering 92 per cent of us are unable to keep our resolutions with unrealistic or unachievable expectations frequently to blame. Psychotherapist and anxiety expert Kamalyn Kaur from Glasgow has also warned that even the phrase itself has too much hope and pressure attached to it. But there are ways to ace those goals. Here, she reveals how. Reframe the resolution narrative Kamalyn says: “If you’re struggling with the connotations attached to New Year’s Resolutions, call your goals intentions. I use the word intentions as I find that it takes the pressure off and is a kinder choice of words. “I always plan my goals in January after I’ve celebrated Christmas and I recommend that you do the same because I believe it’s best to write them down when you have the time and energy. “This encourages clarity and reflection when it comes to making a plan rather than setting an arbitrary goal just because it is New Year. “For 2024, I’ll probably set the targets of working less to have a better work-life balance and getting fitter by doing weight resistance exercises.”
Kamalyn Kaur, plans her resolutions for the year in January, devoting time and energy to looking into achieving them and here reveals how to stick to them…
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Write down your intentions every day and make sure they’re things you want to do “I write down my goals every day and always keep them near me, where I can see them. “If you do the same with yours, it will make it real and your subconscious brain will help you think of ways to make them happen. “It’s also really important that you opt to focus on what you want to achieve and not things that you feel you should be doing. “For example, if I didn’t like the gym but was telling myself I’d go more often, I’d opt for something I enjoyed instead,” Kamalyn says.
Kamalyn advises people to write down their goals every day and put them somewhere they can see them
(Image: Kamalyn Kaur)
Only set two or three targets It can be tempting to sit down and make a large list of possible achievements for the year but Kamalyn advises that it is best to keep it simple. She says: “When you’re setting your targets, ensure that you plump for two or three because if you opt for more than that it might become overwhelming. “You may struggle to stick to them or get “analysis paralysis” where you are spending so much time overthinking each of the New Year’s resolutions that you can’t take any action at all towards achieving them. “Also, make sure that your goals are realistic given your current circumstances. Do you have the time, energy, headspace, emotional band with, mental energy, financial resources, or support around you to achieve what you want to do?” Break your New Year’s Resolutions into smaller and more manageable goals Kamalyn says: “Set weekly or bi-weekly action points towards your resolutions so that you are making steady progress throughout the year. “Don’t just jump all in during January, this is how people end up losing interest in their goals; burning themselves out or losing motivation by the third week of January! “If you’re struggling, remind yourself why you have set the resolutions and how you’ll feel when you’ve achieved them. “Whatever intention you set, always do some self-reflection as to why you are setting it in the first place by asking yourself ‘What value will this add to my life?’. If you can’t see a clear value or benefit then you might want to reconsider it.” Check out Kamalyn here: https://kamalynkaur.com/Story SavedYou can find this story in My Bookmarks.Or by navigating to the user icon in the top right.Follow OK! MagazineFacebookTwitterMore OnReal LifeHealth
